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Your children are beautiful. I hate this world that wants them to be stripped of their innocence at younger & younger ages.

I will devoutly wish for your daughter to start university as her real name--the only name given to her by her loving parents. I still get a frisson of delight whenever I hear my daughter refer to herself as the name we gave her, & it’s 5+ years since she desisted. I believe you will enjoy this relief & pleasure too.

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Thank you and I'm so happy for you. ❤️❤️❤️

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Reading this, I just know your family is going to come out of this OK. There is just too much love and devotion here!!! Sorry if that sounds corny, but you know what I mean. And that photo should be on a Christmas card at Hallmark!

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🥹🥹🥹

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I love the love pouring out of your words!💕 And I get why you wish so hard you could publish using her real (definitely cool) name (and I get why you didn’t). I’ll bet someday in the not-too-faraway future you’ll be able to re-post this “from the archives,” but with the blanks edited out. That will be a truly LOVEly day.😘💗

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All that delight is pretty intoxicating huh! I pray your bet wins! 🥰

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Your writing with the blanks is perfect. It makes it all the more powerful because we understand the craziness and heartbreak to have to hide your exuberant love for your daughter. Thank you for your wise voice Mrs. Miller.

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💔___💔

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This is a beautiful tribute to ______! Someday soon I hope you will be able to read it directly to her.

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Me too! The unedited way. Thank you Eliza!

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black shirt is the transboy ?

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No. That's my son. Miss Miller is the one in red, who you call "the trans boy."

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I wasn't sure myself, because I realized I didn't know the gender of the dog, and that the dog could be the oldest in the picture. Then I started wondering if Miss Miller actually WAS the dog (no disrespect meant at all, I love dogs more than most people), like maybe you meant it jokingly?

Regardless, both your children are beautiful. Very striking faces, and beautiful eyes. And she can't change, or even surgically alter, those.

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ah, I had to go back to the post and look at the caption, which I've changed for clarity. thank you Jen!

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