It's as though many men have channeled all their loathing of the perverts we see all around us onto one man, Trump, who they call a r*pist, spitting the word out. That seems to absolve them of having to react to men in women's prisons, spaces, sports, surgical and medical atrocities etc. It doesn't make sense.
My brother-in-law had the empathy to put himself in women’s shoes when pondering the presence of women in men’s locker rooms and how uncomfortable it would make him to see naked women or undress in front of them.
On the other hand, my sister showed all the empathy in the world for men in women’s prisons because those poor guys need protection from violent men…but couldn’t see herself from the vantage point of incarcerated women locked in a cell with a rapist.
At least where trans is concerned, I don’t believe we can generalize about which sex is more ideologically captured.
Hate to disagree – well, sort of. Certainly there are some men like that, but in my experience there are many more women who feel that way about Big Orange.
I’m really glad you’re not separating and are getting through it. This is the best thing I’ve read today!
What’s your JonBenet theory? That documentary was interesting. I think it was a pervert who saw her at one of those stupid pageants. How the cops didn’t check that out first is mind blowing.
Yours is a good story. I don’t think my, soon to be 25 year, marriage will survive. We are also dealing with a F to M transition. But my wife is almost militaristic. She is ready to take up arms against the Right. We survive as roommates currently. She says things derogatory about Trump, but I am not allowed to defend him. I just can’t keep doing this. But, i don’t want to find anyone else. I would be better on my own.
1. Beautiful resolution. Mazel tov to you and Mr. M.
2. May you both live and be well with chicken soup.
3. Thank you for the book.
4. If you figure out the Jon Benet Ramsey mystery, please share.
5. But enough about you. I’m still trying to find common ground with my Trump-deranged sister, who vacillates between magnanimity and hostile condescension towards me (think of Lucy removing the football every time Charlie Brown tries to kick it). The problem is that we don’t love each other the way you and your husband love each other. Or do we? There’s a lesson there.
Beautiful ❤️ I'm so happy for you and Mr. Miller and your family! This course of action you have taken for your marriage is similar to what I've done with my daughter. I stepped back from the political activism that I thought I needed to engage in in order to save her and began focusing on doing everything I could to strengthen our relationship, to make sure she KNOWS that she is valued and loved. THAT changed everything for the better 😊
Brings tears to my eyes. I'm so happy for you both. And so glad you found a counselor who sees what you have and such confidence in your ability to keep it. Love you and your marriage. You're both keepers.💝💕💗
My husband and I agree on politics, but we, like all other couples, have at times hurt and disagreed with one another. When I read your post to him he shared my reaction of pleasure and encouragement. Tender hearts, plus commitment to marriage vows and shared lives and history go a long way. God bless you and yours. He is true, and faithful.
I am so happy to read this. I remember feeling a little weird after giving you advice - you didn't exactly ask for it, but we all piled on, didn't we? (Sorry about that.) But I'm thrilled to hear some of the things I "advised" ended up helping. Make sure you DO take advantage of that counselor if you need it again (oops, more advice you didn't ask for). As for your journey away from obsessing over politics -- it looks like you and I are concurrently taking a break (much easier to do post-election, I think). Yesterday morning, I put a time limit on my X / FB / IG usage on the phone -- 15 minutes a day -- because I had started developing a nervous twitch in my eyelid again -- something I hadn't felt since I was a younger, stressed-out mom. I blamed politics for the stress and I hope I'm right. I survived all day yesterday with only 15 minutes of owning the libs. Hooray! Here's to your marriage and my stress -- may the former get stronger and the latter get lost!
I asked for the advice Moonbeam. Literally. And it saved me so much money! lol. The counselor is on-call for us should we need her again. I think you are so right about the election being over making it way easier to abstain. and that the crux of the addiction is indeed to own the Libs, of which my husband is one, which really is not the smartest echo chamber to inhabit. congratulations to your 15 minute survival! Get lost stress! I'm going to pray all over that for ya. appreciate you Moonbeam!
It's as though many men have channeled all their loathing of the perverts we see all around us onto one man, Trump, who they call a r*pist, spitting the word out. That seems to absolve them of having to react to men in women's prisons, spaces, sports, surgical and medical atrocities etc. It doesn't make sense.
I hope that's not the case with my husband but he has shown a softer position on Imane Khalif for example so I see how it makes sense.
My brother-in-law had the empathy to put himself in women’s shoes when pondering the presence of women in men’s locker rooms and how uncomfortable it would make him to see naked women or undress in front of them.
On the other hand, my sister showed all the empathy in the world for men in women’s prisons because those poor guys need protection from violent men…but couldn’t see herself from the vantage point of incarcerated women locked in a cell with a rapist.
At least where trans is concerned, I don’t believe we can generalize about which sex is more ideologically captured.
Hate to disagree – well, sort of. Certainly there are some men like that, but in my experience there are many more women who feel that way about Big Orange.
I’m really glad you’re not separating and are getting through it. This is the best thing I’ve read today!
What’s your JonBenet theory? That documentary was interesting. I think it was a pervert who saw her at one of those stupid pageants. How the cops didn’t check that out first is mind blowing.
I wanna hear it too!
Yes!
“triumphing together over our poisonous thicket”
Love this image/vantage.
Robert Edward Grant wrote or quoted or said this, and I heard or read it this year and immediately wrote it down:
“You attract what you judge until you no longer judge what you attract.” Xx
Love is expecting the best of your partner – but not demanding it.
56 years and still looking forward! Of course, she gets real mad at me when I tell her I don't have a bucket list because I'm living it.
Mazel tov!
I like aquinas’ definition best, which is, essentially, that love is willing the good of the other. ❤️
1 John 2:7-14 (EVS)
I like that and thank you!
This makes me SO HAPPY.
😊
Yours is a good story. I don’t think my, soon to be 25 year, marriage will survive. We are also dealing with a F to M transition. But my wife is almost militaristic. She is ready to take up arms against the Right. We survive as roommates currently. She says things derogatory about Trump, but I am not allowed to defend him. I just can’t keep doing this. But, i don’t want to find anyone else. I would be better on my own.
I hear you. I'd be the same as you in your position. It's been grueling for you.
Crying tears of relief and joy for you over here! And I have more hope that my husband and I will follow the same path. Thanks again for sharing 😘
Sharing is caring! I'll pray on it Merrie!
1. Beautiful resolution. Mazel tov to you and Mr. M.
2. May you both live and be well with chicken soup.
3. Thank you for the book.
4. If you figure out the Jon Benet Ramsey mystery, please share.
5. But enough about you. I’m still trying to find common ground with my Trump-deranged sister, who vacillates between magnanimity and hostile condescension towards me (think of Lucy removing the football every time Charlie Brown tries to kick it). The problem is that we don’t love each other the way you and your husband love each other. Or do we? There’s a lesson there.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IjMKz0wCGmw
Glad you got the book! If you're still talking to each other that means you love each other.
Thank you.
Yes, exactly.
Beautiful ❤️ I'm so happy for you and Mr. Miller and your family! This course of action you have taken for your marriage is similar to what I've done with my daughter. I stepped back from the political activism that I thought I needed to engage in in order to save her and began focusing on doing everything I could to strengthen our relationship, to make sure she KNOWS that she is valued and loved. THAT changed everything for the better 😊
Amen. Thank you. And glad it worked out for you as well!
Brings tears to my eyes. I'm so happy for you both. And so glad you found a counselor who sees what you have and such confidence in your ability to keep it. Love you and your marriage. You're both keepers.💝💕💗
Yay!
This is wonderful news. And you don't have to worrynanyway, as Trump won (woohoo)...
Now onto that theory!!! Was it Patty covering for Burke???? 🤔
Check out my latest post and thank you Al!
Ha, I gave that same mug to my wife. Unfortunately one of my dogs knocked it over and broke it. I will get her another one…
My husband and I agree on politics, but we, like all other couples, have at times hurt and disagreed with one another. When I read your post to him he shared my reaction of pleasure and encouragement. Tender hearts, plus commitment to marriage vows and shared lives and history go a long way. God bless you and yours. He is true, and faithful.
That is beautiful. Thank you. And your husband!
Glad you and your husband are working through it! But what’s your JonBenet theory because I’m all ears and then some!
Congratulations! And yes, bring on the JonBenét Ramsey theory.
I am so happy to read this. I remember feeling a little weird after giving you advice - you didn't exactly ask for it, but we all piled on, didn't we? (Sorry about that.) But I'm thrilled to hear some of the things I "advised" ended up helping. Make sure you DO take advantage of that counselor if you need it again (oops, more advice you didn't ask for). As for your journey away from obsessing over politics -- it looks like you and I are concurrently taking a break (much easier to do post-election, I think). Yesterday morning, I put a time limit on my X / FB / IG usage on the phone -- 15 minutes a day -- because I had started developing a nervous twitch in my eyelid again -- something I hadn't felt since I was a younger, stressed-out mom. I blamed politics for the stress and I hope I'm right. I survived all day yesterday with only 15 minutes of owning the libs. Hooray! Here's to your marriage and my stress -- may the former get stronger and the latter get lost!
I asked for the advice Moonbeam. Literally. And it saved me so much money! lol. The counselor is on-call for us should we need her again. I think you are so right about the election being over making it way easier to abstain. and that the crux of the addiction is indeed to own the Libs, of which my husband is one, which really is not the smartest echo chamber to inhabit. congratulations to your 15 minute survival! Get lost stress! I'm going to pray all over that for ya. appreciate you Moonbeam!